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A  R Rahman, Oscar winner award musician says, “Prayer coming from a pure heart can actually change the destiny. I have seen it happen. There are instances that make me believe in the power of universe. And when the right things happen at the right time, is when your faith in something is reinforces many times more. It’s you also need to put you sincerity and hard work, but it’s meaningless if there is hatred and contempt in heart for your fellow beings. “
Clean soul can create wonders. Clean soul bless you sound and deep sleep of 8 hours. Prayer, Music, Meditation and creation are the tools to make soul more clean and clear. Holly wood actress learns prayer and meditation to live distress life. Recently, Angelina Jolly committed that she love spiritual life and she understand the importance of it in the life.
Leader does spend net 40 minutes for meditation and prayer every day, irrespective of anything and any place. In prayer you travel to God and share your pure emotions (not intelligence) this lesson is very well understand experience by leader.
The good wishes that leaders earn in the lifetime are true victory and real awards. “Leadership is based on a spiritual quality; the power to inspire, the power to inspire others to follow.” asserted by Vince Lombard.
True leaders know the true value of prayer and meditation. They also know that there is no pint in value the water after finding out dry well.

It was an experiment. I was returning an item to the store from which I had bought it. The item was well within the return period, but there would be a 20% restocking fee. Could I evade that fee? What would I have to do or say to persuade them not to charge it to me?

Last week I suggested that the best way to handle a situation in which you have no power is to give up the illusion of power and appeal to the generosity of the person in power. That’s a hard thing to do and worth practicing.

I thought about telling the store that my item didn’t work properly or it didn’t perform as expected or it didn’t do what I needed — in other words, subtle ways of getting the upper-hand, of being in the right, of gaining power. But the product was fine, and lying always backfires and feels even worse than yelling. Also, trying to assert power would miss the point and violate the rules of the experiment: I was trying to see if I could get what I wanted by appealing to a powerful person’s generosity. I was trying to practice. So I ruled those out.

What I had left, I realized, was nothing. Which was the exact strategy I was practicing.

“I’d like to return this,” I said to the sales person behind the cash register, “and I know you charge a restocking fee — which you have every right to do — but I’d really appreciate it if you didn’t.”

“Sorry sir, but we have to charge the fee. We always charge the fee. It’s company policy.”

“I understand but is there someone in the store who could make the decision to waive the fee?”

I waited for the manager, who came out and repeated the policy.

“I completely understand, and truth is, there’s nothing wrong with the device, it just didn’t work for me. I know you have every right to charge me the fee. And that there’s no reason not to in this situation. It’s just that I was really hoping you might make an exception in this case.”

Now, pause for a moment and notice that I am making no attempt to exert any power in the situation — it would be absurd to try because I have no power — but I am acknowledging my powerlessness and appealing to his generosity, asking him to use his power with compassion.

“I’m sorry, but, you know, we can’t sell this product as new anymore. That’s why we have the restocking fee policy.”

He was right, of course. And he made complete sense. At this point I was actually embarrassed to continue. Not only didn’t I have the power, but he was using his power appropriately. Still, it was an experiment, and I was practicing and learning, which made it OK to persist. I knew I might fail but I committed to continuing.

“Yeah, that makes sense actually. I mean, you can’t sell this again as new. So I would of course understand if you said no. But maybe in this situation you could make an exception? I would be really appreciative if you didn’t charge me the fee.”

He paused for a second before responding: “We don’t normally waive the fee.”

Did you catch that? Normally. Which means it is something they occasionally do.

My next move was not to make a move. I just looked at him and waited in the silence. Which of course is actually a move, one that feels very awkward. But it was an experiment so I continued.

He finally spoke: “Well, I’ll make an exception this one time — but only this once.”

I was effusive in thanking him — and I wasn’t faking it. I was really so thankful that he was willing to make this exception. In fact, by our banter afterward, I think we both left the transaction feeling good about the other, a much better result than would have been accomplished by trying to force power.

The experience reinforced, for me, that people, quite predictably, will be generous if you respectfully appeal to their generosity. It feels better to them — and to you — than trying to exert power. And if the answer still turns out to be no, I’d bet using threats wouldn’t fare any better in the situation.

What I learned went well beyond the confirmation of an idea. What I learned is the power of framing, of thinking about life as an experiment.

Because when we live life as an experiment, we are far more willing to take risks, to acknowledge failure, to learn and develop. That’s what experiments are all about: discovery and growth. There is no real failure in an experiment because it’s all data. If something doesn’t work, that’s simply data that leads to changing behavior to see if something else does work.

When we’re experimenting, we’re willing to do all sorts of things we might be embarrassed to do otherwise. Like ask for something when we don’t particularly “deserve” it. Or say something in a conversation that might create a breakthrough (or might appear dumb). If it’s an experiment, then taking a risk is the win — whether it pans out or not.

And in those situations when it does pan out, we might just walk away with more than a good education. We might walk away with an extra 20% in our pockets.

Often referenced study suggests that failing to take a nice long vacation over a period of years can increase your likelihood of heart disease.
Mark Twain asserted “make your vocation –vacation.”I believe in loving vocations. “Each man has his own vocation; his talent is his call. There is one direction in which all space is open to him.” Said profoundly by Ralph Waldo Emerson quotes (American Poet, Lecturer and Essayist, 1803-1882)
We all need profession by choice not by chance. Founder of Jerry Yang Yahoo says,” it was all fun and joy it was never a business. Founder of Elan Musk PayPal says,” I need only three things internet, environment and income to pat rent only. No idea of making profit and I had not gone for vacation for 3 years. Founder of Microsoft Bill Gates had worked for more than 2 years before finding out his first software” DOS “for IBM.He ranged his mother to communicate that this may be last call from my side as I get the first software contract in my life.”
Stress free and pleasure work place cannot be created .Pleasure and peace is the byproduct of love. Once you start loving it pleasure will be created. Most of the people do not love their work; hence the pressure is created at the work place.
Working hours are never long enough. It never makes someone tired if someone love it. See it is always a fun and joy . In my eyes, vocation is spring to life. How someone can be away for a day in his life from his vocation.
“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is unique as his specific opportunity.” Asserted by Viktor Frankl quotes (Austrian psychiatrist and psychotherapist. 1905-1997).

We all need to nourish our spirit with new scenery, abandoned routines, and time devoted entirely to stress-free pleasure. But you’ve also probably heard or read me say that balance is BS.

Never argue with one’s own understanding.

The whisper of intelligence is always there, whatever you do.

If you create a time lag between the whisper of intelligence and understanding in you and your action, then you are preventing the cerebral organ from growing into a new dimension.  When you argue with intelligence, when you postpone acting according to understanding then there is confusion, the brain gets confused.

The voice of understanding, the voice of intelligence has an insecurity about it. How do you know that it is the right thing?

So we tend to ignore it.  Instead we accept authority.  We conform.

But the brain cannot be orderly, competent, accurate and precise if you do not listen to it, if you have no respect.  We are so busy with the outside world, and its compulsions, that the world that is inside us does not command that respect and reverence, that care and concern from us.

So one has to be a disciple of one’s own understanding, look upon that understanding as the master.

Sometimes one may commit a mistake, it might be the whim of the ego and we might mistake the whim, the wish of the ego for the voice of silence and intelligence, but that we have to discover. Unless you commit mistakes, how do you learn to discriminate between the false and the true?  In learning there is bound to be a little insecurity, a possibility of committing mistakes.  Why should one be terribly afraid of committing mistakes?

So instead of accepting the authority of habits and conditioning, while one is moving one watches, and when there is a suggestion, a whisper from within, from one’s own intelligence, one does not neglect, ignore, or insult that.

To eliminate the time lag between understanding and action is the way to grow into spontaneity.

–Vimala Thakar

Dwight Howard, The four times NBA All stars and two time defensive player of the year, is one of the most aggressive players of the basket ball of the world but he never lost his cool spirit on the ground. Basket ball legend says, “It is a fun for me. I fell in love with the game when I was three years old. I grew it up enjoying it. Knowing more games also but I love only basketball. I had conquered the world by loving game.”
Life becomes more memorable by loving your passion. Love your work and work with love, success is a byproduct. Doing passionately with madness attitude helps us in creating miracles. I believe loving something and doing it for life time with madness make a big difference in the respective field. Conquering the world is never a main goal. To love it, doing for years always give direction to the career and life. There is no other remedy to create high level of success except loving it fullest.
Loving what you are doing every moment creates every moment.
Pretending our real love and engaging in other activities slowly invites pain and discomfort in the life. A life lived with loving passion never make us dull.