You are creator of your destiny. If I sow two seeds of tomato I am bound to harvest more than what I had sown simply because those two seeds will give rise to two plants that would sprout more than two tomatoes. This is the law of nature. Decide and act good and you harvest a habit that is for larger good and beneficial to all. This enables your character with nobility signifying your destiny so far unknown to you.
When we blame it all on destiny are we not ignoring the fact that we are responsible for it as we design our destiny?
You think people and place and time are the part of it. Yes, it is happening in such situations but you are responsible and accountable to no one else. I repeat no one else.
When, you die God will ask you a simple question,
Why did you do it? Did you not contravene the laws as enshrined by me?
Your simple reply: Lord, I did what they have done to me.
God would want to know: Are you accountable to me or people of my creation?
You say: I am accountable to you.
People were only part of the overall script.
You are main character of life-script. As you evolve into a better person you act as per the script, pre-defined, to upgrade and remove the stains that cloud your thinking about your soul.
I don’t really like to get into intellectual analysis of why people do to you what they should not. Accept the script is powerfully written to achieve a certain level of understanding about your soul. This needs a detached level of thinking.
Never react to people. Only act. As the action is what counts in nature. Sun, Moon, Trees, Sea all act without reacting to others……. Simply act. Not by words but by spirit of silence. Constant action is dharma. Serenity of action should be the rule, the real principle to be followed without deviation.
You are not born to discuss, evaluate or know people. People are never part of your main goal. Discussing people means deviating from the main goal and wasting priceless moments of your brief lifespan.
The maximum you could do is love people by helping them; being kind to them. Share whatever you have from whatever you get for yourself.
At no point of time and space, people should drive you to reaction. You are driving your life through your state of mind without reacting to people.
You need not decide what people have done to you. You decide what you can do for people without entering into a discussion or evaluation so critical that you start reacting.
I think a good script is to act and not react, and I think no matter who you are you have to live for a cause and not what people expect you to by your reaction.
Remember, when you are traveling you pass through many milestones but you never stop to ponder about it. You have much larger goal in life.
Do not misunderstand me; I am not directing you to stay away from people. You must live with them but do not discuss people per se. Instead of evaluating their warts and moles, love them instead; forgive them, be kind to them, be good to them, this could shape your karma in life.
Reactions to people’s action have never been your goal of life.