For most of us, the expression “you are your own worst enemy” holds a lot of truth. It’s a painful reality that much of what limits us in our lives is our own feelings of unworthiness and self-hatred. “I hate myself” is a fairly common thought.
But where do these feelings come from? How do they influence us? And how can we push past them to live a life free of the harsh attitudes of our inner critic?
Why you hate your self? what is the reason? How does the thought come into mind? Is there any remedy?
Do you hate your self for what has a huge meaning in my eyes?
Let me share with you an experience which I come across in India. He said I hate because , I think, I am forgetting people very easily. even, I put them in my life for the second time. I forget their miss behave with me. I even forget what damage they have done to me in the past. I offer them another chance. I remain silent. what shall I do even! I just keep on watching.
shall they change themselves or I change my selves?
I have another example of hating himself for not making money. He was sharing with me that he fails to understand the value of money. monetary accomplishments have value. In fact, only it has impact and credit in life. Now, his life is passed almost. He had crossed 58 years. How he could change him selves. Now, How can he make money?
He was hating himself for such situations. Why he had not made money or success so call.
In their research, psychologists Dr. Robert and Lisa Firestone found that the most common self-critical thought among a diverse population of subjects tested is “You are different from other people.” Most people see themselves as different, not in some positive or special way, but in a negative sense. Even people who seem well-adjusted and well-liked in their social circles have deep-seated feelings of being an outcast or a fraud.
This feeling about ourselves is common because every person is divided. As Dr. Robert Firestone has described, each of us has a “real self,” a part of us that is self-accepting, goal-directed and life-affirming as well as an “anti-self,” a side of us that is self-hating, self-denying, paranoid and suspicious.
s. It’s there to undermine our goals: “Who do you think you are? You’ll never be successful!” It’s there to undercut our accomplishments: “This won’t end well. Sooner or later you’re going to mess up.” It’s there to sabotage our relationships: “She doesn’t really love you. You shouldn’t trust her.” It’s even there to criticize those close to us: “Why does he even hang out with you? There must be something wrong with him.” Finally, this voice can seem self-soothing, coddling us yet encouraging us to act in ways that our self-destructive, then punishing us for messing up: “Go ahead, have that second piece of cake. You’ve had a rough week you deserve it.” Later, it will fire with comments like: “You’re such a fat loser. How could you mess up on your diet again?
what is your inner voice? This question have significant meaning in life.
I come across people hate themselves for not losing fat, extramarital affairs, characterless comments, and bad habits.
I believe they have to go to the internal coach. I mean, their inner voice. they should follow it. They must listen to the inner soul and follow accordingly. world’s voice is not the solution.