"This world is the most beautiful creation and gift of God. The people on this planet are also the beautiful creatures and are always good. My lack of vision is not allowing my eyes to see this incredible world and the heart to feel it."
The rules you make with the phrase “will not”, may be broken by you someday. The rules you make must have this phrase “I must ever”. You will rarely break such rules.
How I can transform my “Will not” into “Must be.”
“I must be a vegetarian.”
“I must be drug free.”
Why are you making rules?
By making rules you are planning to raise your standards for one thing, over which you want to have a complete control. It means that you are intelligently planning to have control over your life, which adds value in your life or adds happiness in your life or dynamics of your living or new experience will enrich your life.
In short, you must have happiness in your life through rules and raise the standard of your living.
In your life, you must have certain number of rules. Today try to examine your rules. Make sure that you are controlling the rules not that the rules are controlling you. You have to review your decision to judge the appropriation of rules. Rules, which you have decided are intentions that are creating pleasures in the life. If today, it creates pain then it is to be reviewed. Rules that give you pleasure in the past but at present it’s giving you pain. Such decisions are to be reviewed on the passage of time.
One must make sure that under all the rules we have to be happy at any cost.
Control your rules otherwise rules will control you. Reviewing rules is an ongoing process and is of utmost importance.
Never get upset when another one has broken your rules. One of your standards or rules (belief) is upset by someone. You should not get into any personal issue with that person. You are upset because he has upset your rules. You are reacting, probably be hostile to his/her attitude not with him/her in this situation. Remember, rules are your standards and your ways to lead life to have happiness. Others have their own believes and it is their lives to lead their own way.
Even if it has hurt you, you do not have the right to communicate in the harmful way. You can communicate in better fashion. At the end of your influence the person should realise that he need to transform his attitude. Otherwise, it ends with conflict, disturbed relationship and you will be living with unhappiness. At that time, your main objective behind rules was standard of life and happiness in life is completely vague.
Sometimes too many rules ruins our pleasure in life and it may make people disturbed around your life. “I will not do this, I will not take this.” Such bindings sometimes hold you back and people around you also get disturbed.
I would like to conclude this Monday wisdom with
“The rules may limit yourself and hold you but not at the cost of your happiness, joy, laughter and love.”
