Breaking Through the Either, or Syndrome
September 30, 2008

Let’s take a little quiz.  Read the following five questions and answer them as honestly as possible. Ready? Begin…

1.  Do you want a successful career or a close relationship with your family?

2.  Do you want to earn a fortune or do the work you love?

3.  Do you want to enjoy a delicious love life or grow your business?

4.  Do you want to give to your favorite charity or invest in the new car?

5.  Do you want to travel the world or make money?


There’s only one answer to all of these questions. The answer is… BOTH! One of the most powerful habits that can bring more abundance in your life is the habit of thinking, “Both”. Rich people live in a world of abundance. Poor people live in a world of limitation. Poor people think there’s not enough to go around in the world. They come from a fear-based mindset.  Their answers are “either/or”, but never “both”. In a poor person’s mind-set they go for security above love, safety before self-expression and protection over possibility. What about you?  Are you a possibility theorist or a fear-based thinker? Rich people live in a world of abundance. Poor people live in a world of limitation. Rich people understand that with a little creativity, a willingness to be unconventional, and an open mind, they can have both. When you build your business (and your life) on the “Both” mentality, you will see opportunities that you were once blind to.


I invite you to begin today to alter your mind-set. Get in the habit of saying “Both!” Try it for the next seven days. Anytime you’re asked to decide on two options, say both and then use your creative genius to make it happen. You’re asked if you want peanut butter or pralines and cream. Say both and then do a double work out that day. You’re asked if you can write that article or take your daughter to soccer. Say both and then skip TV that night. You’re asked if you want to spend a week at the lake or a week at the beach. Say both and sign up for a house exchange.


You’re asked if you want to attend Yale or Berkeley. (Ha! This is the question my daughter Auriana poses as I write this article.) I say, “Let’s jump on a plane, tour the campuses and make a choice. To which my 18-year-old daughter replies, “And whatever college I don’t get my Bachelors from, I’ll attend for my Masters! Just say, “Both!” Only you can make the decision to break through the limitations put on life. YOU have the power to change your beliefs about abundance and prove to yourself you really believe in enjoying “both!” Your first homework assignment this month is to practice saying, “Both” for seven days and notice the changes in your life. Your second homework assignment is to celebrate those changes and all the abundance that you will begin manifesting into your life.

By: Lisa Jimenez

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Dr Shailesh Thaker

Dr. Shailesh Thaker is a world-renowned management thinker and trainer on organizational behavior and development. He is the CLO of Knowledge Plus Inc., a highly reputed training firm based in Ahmedabad, India, helping organizations to achieve international benchmarks in management practices.

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