It’s so easy to get stuck in it. To let it hold you back. I have been there many times in my life. who is responsible or not?. The answer to this question is not a matter. The most important aspect is you are stuck.
One of the reasons for that is that I made a common mistake.
And it’s this:
You misinterpret the often little information you have.
It is easy to take very few experiences – or maybe just one – and start seeing them as evidence of something permanent and frightening in your life. So what can you do instead to reduce your fears?
Here’s what worked for me…
Question your fears and what they are based upon.
Sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. Think back to what evidence you have in your memories for fear and a belief of yours.
Try to see the situation(s) that created your fear with fresh eyes today. Instead of the way you may usually see them.
Doing this helped me too, for example, reduce my fear of financial capacity _ rejection.
I looked back at a few situations from my past that formed and fueled that fear.
And I realized these two things:
Honestly, I may have just misinterpreted being rejected in some of those situations.
I often wasn’t rejected because there was something wrong with what I did but simply because we weren’t really a good match for each other. Or because the other person had a bad day or because he or she simply wanted to push me down to feel better about himself or herself in that moment.
This was an eye-opening experience and also helped me to understand that everything is not about me and what I do.
And that our memories can often be pretty inaccurate and unhelpful if not reexamined later on. Our minds love to create patterns and conclusions based on very little evidence or a few experiences. So question your memories and fears from time to time to see them for what they actually are.
I see a rare difference between Worry and THinking. Most of the time, we are confused in the matter and fail to find out solutions and get involved in to worry. Finally, it is ended so badly in mind. Absolutely horrible.
My concern is the art of thinking.