What is the difference between self centric and selfishness?
May 22, 2013
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Selfishness is typically defined as “concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself.” If someone hears that the CEO is being selfish, the thought that is likely to come to mind is, “The leader is maximizing personal financial rewards even at the cost of the company’s or anyone’s interests.”

If that is the case, it is unfortunate and unacceptable. I as mentor do not consider him as leader. Leader could not be selfish. If e consider leader as selfish leader than selfishness should be redefine.

Leader need to be selfish with his emotions. If he is emotionally selfish than he could benefit himself and company or organisation which she/ he leads.

Prof.Govindraj asked very simple questions .What is the mental aspects of selfishness that will help us as leaders? Prof.  Govindraj added , “The first step in becoming a selfish leader is to remove the harmful emotions and negativities that distract us from clear and effective decision making. Take anger, for example. Anger releases neurotransmitter chemicals known as catecholamine that give us a burst of energy. Our heart rate accelerates, our blood pressure rises, and our rate of breathing increases. Our attention narrows and becomes locked onto the target of our anger, and we can’t pay attention to anything else.

Can we take better decisions when we are angry? Can we lead ourselves as role model when we are angry? Can I create an impact in company with anger- state of mind?

All negative state of mind is to reduce or eliminate in day to day life.

Can we create a work place where positive energy flows? Where everyone feel vibrations to become vibrant team members?

The second step is to selfishly benefit oneself, and the biggest benefits we can give ourselves are positive states of mind: empathy, kindness, compassion, goodwill, pardon, egolessness, and gratitude. These positive states of mind release serotonin, oxytocin and other related chemicals that reduce stress, improve our immune system, and drastically reduce our tendencies for psychosomatic diseases. As leaders, when we have positive states of mind, we start distributing those to others around us. We distribute what we have, magnified many times over. This creates a more congenial atmosphere, and improves morale and boosts productivity.

Who would have thought that focusing on you first can do so much?

Meditation is the biggest technique to master our emotions. I must refer  osho for meditation. Osho have recommended more than 768 styles of meditations. You could keep sound state of mind by meditation which helps you in taking most important decisions in company. As leader decision making is most important and influentive in day to day business.

Business judgment of leaders is all about getting to quickly decipher what is not so evident at the surface level. When a leader is selfish, there is nothing clouding his or her understanding of the current reality as it is — not as he or she would like it to be, as it appears to be, or as the media describes it to be.

This is easy to understand, yet difficult to practice. But it’s incredibly worthwhile.

Leadership is made up of an amalgamation of beliefs and related behaviors geared towards supporting individuals and groups.   There are self-centered managers, but no leaders. There could not be self centered leader. Leader could be selfish by emotions as term selfish is redefine.

It’s how to recognize managers who believe they are leaders, but their beliefs and behaviors are self-serving. If you fall in to this group than check your own level.

It is to spark a conversation on what to do to help managers with this destructive belief.

Signs of self centered managers.

1.     Erratic behaviours on important organizational topics that are high important at the moment in the company.

2.     Increase his visibility within the organization and indirectly try to prove his importance in the organisation.

3.     Incapable of seeing the impact of his or her ideas on the organization, the employees, and the customer

4.    Big promises are commonly shared with senior executives and are accepted

5.     Other managers avoid saying anything about him. He is always at point of discussion for his attitude in company during gossiping time.

6. Creating confuse  environment and making team players confused so his importance could be generated. Unable to make an impact in team.

7/ Found more at self praising level. Hardly bother for quality, deadlines, people and values of the orgasnisation.

These kinds of people are highly talented and knowledgeable. They have terrific stuff inside them. They can lead very well and put organisation at number one in the competition.

Self-centered leadership must be acknowledged as a fallacy and immediately addressed.

About author

Dr Shailesh Thaker

Dr. Shailesh Thaker is a world-renowned management thinker and trainer on organizational behavior and development. He is the CLO of Knowledge Plus Inc., a highly reputed training firm based in Ahmedabad, India, helping organizations to achieve international benchmarks in management practices.

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